Don't approach him with a demandsuch as "I need you to put more time into our relationship". That is why there are home teachers, friends, family members, neighborsвto provide priesthood blessings. The way he wanted to live his life, the family he wanted to have, the wife he dreamt of- matched the type of person I longed for. As my husband learns about Mormonism I get to see it through his fresh eyes. If you have tended to straddle the line between light and dark in the past, or have been a partier, expect to make some changes for this relationship, and expect certain things from your new crush. We'll have to discuss that, now that I actually know some things about some things. Yes have moved away from family at 7 months pregnant to knowing no-one and starting from scratch and having no support network especially from husband who couldn't wait to get away and had the cheek to say he dreaded coming home some nights, poor him, I dreaded being home most days. I was in your same position years ago.
I have finally learned to pray to change my heart, not his. Most mormon girls look at guys like you as a project and that they have a lifetime to work on the project. You aren't engaged or married or anything, you can't just know that she won't see the light and remain crazy Mormon forever. My 16 year old daughter told her Bishop who made that comment, that she thought her dad was great just the way he was. Don't put them through that either. You need to repent and change.
Being independent is sexy to these men who endure grueling hours, tons of paperwork and politics AND operate. Be open and talk about your ideals. At first it didn't bother me, but after a while I started feeling more like a booty call and less like a SO. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable. Yes, anyone crazy enough to believe the story of gold plates should be able to rationalize a brown rock. They have heavy-handed laws, free handouts, unfair advantages for getting jobsвa loud feminist illusion spoon fed to them. But it is luck of the draw. While that is the case sometimes, it Is much more of an exception than a rule. I hate to be so undiplomatic, but it will always create friction in your life to have this level of religious difference.
There is a lot about Mormonism I am still struggling to understand, but I am reading faith-based memoirs and studying up on Mormonism as well as other religions but the relevance here is on Mormonism. I agree with what you and so many of the other replies have said: Listen with an open heart and curiosity. However, if you are a Catholic guy dating a Mormon girl, then remember that her parents may be averse to it.
